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Ways to help a child being bullied

Talk to your children about the difference between teasing and bullying. Even though teasing can make children feel angry and embarrassed, it is less hostile than bullying, which usually is a one-sided barrage of insults and intimidation.

If you find out your child is being bullied, be a good listener, comfort your child and show your love and support.

Talk to your child about the reasons others bully, and be sure they know they are not to blame.

When bullied, 53 percent of boys were more likely to fight back. Only 38 percent of girls fight back. Girls also were more likely to talk to adults to ask for help.

Following is a list of tips, recommended by www.parentscentre.gov.uk to help children deal with bullies.

Hold the anger. Talk to your children about not losing control. Bullies watch for the reaction they have on others. Each time a child reacts to their cruelty with anger or violence, it only makes them feel more powerful.

Never get physical or bully back. A child can never be certain about what a bully will do if he reacts by fighting back. It is best that your child surrounds himself with friends and gets help from an adult as soon as possible.

Be brave, walk away and ignore the bully. Teach your children to hold their heads high, and to ignore hurtful remarks and e-mails. When ignored, bullies don't get the reaction they are looking for and many times stop bothering the victim.

Use humor. Sometimes, humor can cool the situation, but a child should never use humor to make fun of a bully. It will only make things worse.

Tell an Adult. Encourage your child to tell an adult about what is happening. Studies have shown that schools in which teachers and principals have a strict policy about bullying and fighting have less incidents.

Talk about it. Talking about what your child is feeling can help him deal with the situation. A guidance counselor, teacher or close family members can help the child feel he is not alone.

Use the buddy system. Encourage your child to walk with a friend between classes and to surround himself with friends on the bus or playground. Your child also should offer to do the same for his friends. If a bully is picking on someone, children should be encouraged to let him know his behavior is not acceptable. Bullies want to feel powerful and important. When his peers don't encourage his behavior, he is not getting the reaction he wants.

Develop friendships. Parents should encourage their children to join school organizations, clubs or participate in school sports. When a child is part of a group, it helps build his self-esteem and allows him to spend time with his peers in a positive way.

If parents see that their child cannot handle a bully, then they should intervene. Get your child's school involved. Let the child's teacher, principal and counselor know of the situation.

If parents decide to talk to the bully and his parents, it is recommended they do it within the context of the school. It is better if there is a counselor or a member of school staff involved, to help mediate the meeting.

Support your child by listening to and validating his concerns. Don't minimize what he is feeling. Children often feel vulnerable in this situation and it is important they know you love and support them.

Bullying Don’t Suffer in Silence - an anti-bullying pack for schools

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Bullying - biggest ever rise in calls to ChildLine
New ChildLine foundation launched to raise funds

See all of ChildLine's bullying resources
As millions of children across the UK are beginning a new school year, leading children's charity ChildLine today (Wednesday 25 August) announced a 42% rise in the total number of children counselled by the charity about bullying – the biggest annual increase in the charity's 18-year history. Last year (April 2003 to March 2004) more than 31,000 children and young people spoke to a ChildLine counsellor about bullying – up from just over 21,000 during the previous 12 months. Bullying is the single biggest reason for children to call ChildLine and now accounts for one in four calls to the free, 24-hour helpline.

Full Stop 2 Bullying
Full Stop 2 Bullying is a campaign which is dedicated to preventing bullying and the pain and hurt that goes with it "FULL STOP"

Department for Education and Skills
Bullying hurts and you don't have to endure it. If you are on the receiving end of bullying, there are many things that can be done to make your life easier. This web site is intended to show pupils, their families and teachers how to tackle a problem that has gone on for far too long.

Direct.gov.uk {Education And Learning}
Education and learning- Choices at 14 to 19

Bullying info and resources
The Anti-Bullying Network , Moray House School of Education, University of Edinburgh, Holyrood Road, Edinburgh EH8 8AQ
Tel: 0131 651 6100

What is online bullying?
A NCH survey , conducted in 2002, found that one in four children in the UK are bullied or threatened via their mobile phone or online. Recent figures from ChildLine (August 2004) report a significant rise in the number of children being counselled about bullying, with many saying that new technologies, such as text messaging and email, were a factor. This 21st century bullying technique, known as online bullying, e-bullying or cyberbullying, is defined as follows:

Advise HQ
In the words of Tim Field, a major online adversary of bullying, "Those who can, do. Those who can't, bully." Whatever a bully 'can't' do, one thing he or she can do is to cause misery. Sadly, bullying has always been a problem and, more sadly still, it seems to be on the increase. Many schoolchildren (and adults) know only too well of the psychological and physical, effects that the bully can inflict.

NSPCC {Bullying}
Bullying a selection of materials for children, parents and schools

The NSPCC (National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children) is the UK's leading charity specialising in child protection and the prevention of cruelty to children. We have been directly involved in protecting children and campaigning on their behalf since 1884.